计较

计较 means a disagreement or argument, often over small matters. It refers to a situation where people argue about something they consider important, even if it's trivial to others.

The character 计 (jì) means 'to calculate' or 'to think,' while 较 (jiào) means 'to compare' or 'to measure.' Together, they imply a process of thinking or comparing in a way that leads to conflict or contention.

计较 is commonly used in daily conversations to describe minor disputes or misunderstandings. It can also carry a negative connotation, suggesting someone is overly sensitive or nitpicking. In Chinese culture, avoiding 计较 is often seen as a sign of maturity and harmony in relationships.